It was a privilege today to hear from ex-student Ashlee Thomas and her parents sharing their story of survival - The Secret Burden. Just 4 years ago Ashlee was a high achieving and driven student. Since that time she has experienced the lowest of lows in a battle with anorexia. Today Ashlee and her parents, Andrew and Kendall, spoke with the Year 11 Psychology, Year 11 Health and Year 12 Health Education students. They shared openly and willingly, responding to insightful questions from the audience. Ashlee is well into a recovery journey and mentally strong enough to share with others the pain and emotion she experienced, yet self-aware enough to acknowledge that recovery is not (and may never be) complete. Ashlee's story is well and truly one of strength and survival, as is the story of her parents. From the event two main messages were highlighted;

You are you, and being you is the most you need to be. Youth today are constantly exposed to information and advice through social media. Much of this advice is unsolicited and uninformed, however the visual benefits associated with the advice attracts their attention and encourages them to pursue similar behaviours. This constant comparison and associated drive to mimic what is seen results in many youth becoming dissatisfied with themselves. 

Talk to your friends and family, even about the stuff that hurts. The single most important tool we have to prevent the development of many disorders is communication with those who love us. Honest and open communication about our experiences and emotions, and acceptance of others being open and honest with us.

Ashlee's journey is public and can be followed on Facebook @TheSecretBurden. This is a purposeful sharing of experience to help others. Remember if you feel the need for support, reach out to a teacher you trust, the PBC welfare team (Year Coordinators, Deans, Guidance Officers, School Based Youth Health Nurse) or contact an anonymous service such as Lifeline on 131114.

Shane Roberts
HOD HPE